This month in her first podcast, Lydia answers your questions on work/life balance and talks about her philosophy on making career decisions.
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I have a wife and three kids, 13, 11 and a one-year-old. I have found my limits seems to be three weeks away from the family. How do you find a balance with shoots that go on for months on end. This is a question for Shane and Lydia. Thanks for the much needed resource.
Congratulations on 25 years of marriage. That’s amazing. I have actually wondered about that after spending a year of following this site, have actually often wondered how you deal with the demands of Shane’s work has on him and his schedule within the marriage and family construct. I don’t want to ask too many personal questions, but, I am really interested. I value my relationship in the marriage covenant, but often times finding myself having to choose either the relationship or work and quality work. How is it that you’ve been able to make a long lasting marriage work within the interesting demands that Hollywood places on Shane? Hope this is not too intrusive, but a balanced personal life with work is a topic that is still within the bounds of how to be a great DP or filmmaker, I feel. It can be depressing sometimes, loving my work, but finding myself asking bigger questions about life when flying all over the world for shoots. And then hunker down in a cave, editing, while everyone else gets to enjoy a family. I love my work and where I am with it, but, I don’t want to miss out on other blessings life has to offer.
Do you have any advice for spouses in business together? From what I’ve seen of Shane he seems like a very high energy guy. Do you have to match that energy? This is a growing edge in my 28-year relationship with my wife. We get along in almost every respect, almost no friction. But, when we do a project together, we don’t always find it quite as smooth. We each have quite different approaches to getting things done. Thanks, again.
Hello, Lydia. First, I would like to say thank you for taking the time to answer these questions (Lydia: And I would like to say, “You’re welcome.”) My question is a two-parter about what to do after graduation. I’m not sure where to start in determining my first move after film school: stay local and get as much DP work as I can and build a stronger reel, move to L.A., start at the bottom, move to Atlanta and try and start at the bottom. What is your ideology in helping Shane what to do next? Are there any key questions, philosophies that you use as a sort of road map when helping him make the next big decision? Thank you, Chandler from South Carolina
Thanks for enabling and encouraging Shane to keep sharing his vision and his craft. As an IC member, I am forever grateful for the knowledge shared with us. I have a question regarding the struggles of the first steps in Shane’s career, having kids and keeping a healthy relationship. Shane often talks about his seemingly linear progression to becoming a successful DP. I am, however, interested in the toughest moments in both your lives and careers. Did you ever feel that there was no sense of direction in his project choices? Did he share his problems on set with you? Were you both ever lost, making it difficult to see if you would be able to pay your bills by the end of the month? Did he ever choose creativity with no pay vs. a job that would leave him empty to pay the bills? As a father, husband and filmmaker, I’m really intrigued by this and anything you can share or advice you find useful in retrospect would be very welcomed. Best, Rick
Hi, Lydia. First, allow me to thank you for your immense involvement in the Inner Circle and for running the shows backstage. My question is regarding work, life, balance. For all of us in the Inner Circle, work is what we love doing. Well, this is a great gift. The curse is that we can work hours and hours, sometimes into the night, losing that healthy balance. My uncle always says to break my day into three: eight hours of sleep, eight hours for work, eight hours for play and wellness. I know that working only eight isn’t realistic, it’s often much more than that on certain days, but, there’s still a lot of room for improvement for me and balancing. What have you learned from your experience regarding balancing your life with work as well as making sure that Shane’s work life is balanced with family time? Any guidelines you try and stick to or successful daily routines? Wishing you and your beautiful family a great year. Thanks again, Coby